India's Disgrace!!!

It was Friday afternoon. As usual I reached the mosque from the office, offered namaz and was waiting for other guys to come back, so that we could start. Beggars at religious places are usual. Whether it be a mosque, a temple or a church, the so called beggars are smart enough to target the soft corners of human being.

The first message which strikes our mind, hearing someone going to a temple or mosque is that, the person concerned needs an eternal bliss. It’s a general assumption and true at times, that people mostly visits a temple or a mosque when he goes through a rough patch.

It is this weakness which the beggars target. I really feel sorry for them but this afternoon I decided never to entertain them anymore in my life.

Since then I had never offered a roadside beggar anything, no matter however do they beg. At times people around, gaze at me and gives look as if I owe them something. I do see people taking pride in offering their useless penny, but it never fascinates me.

Well, it sounds too cruel and ruthless of me. But there’s something which made me ponder on it and reach to the decision of avoiding offering to beggars.

That very Friday a group of six to ten small children, probably all of them less than ten years of age surrounded me. They we dressed like a beggar (I say dressed because they worked for some beggar organization I guess) and pleaded as if they are dying of hunger any moment. Fortunately I had a packet of biscuit in my hand. I preferred to offer them the biscuits, rather than to give out the change which could buy them nothing.

I was taken by surprise, the response I got from one of them and how others followed. “ humen paise chahiye. Khana nahin” Said one of the beggars. I interrogated “What else do you guys do apart from beggary” Pat came the reply “ O malik, dena ho to do nahin to aage badho” My BP raised but I kept my cool not to slap him. I asked again “ agar tum padhte ho to main tumhari madad kar sakta hoon”. And the next moment they ran away as if I had blamed them to be a terrorist.

I kept on wondering and realized soon they might be working for their boss who would punish them if they do not meet their target.

I boarded the cab and sat quietly near the window seat, wondering can we do anything to rectify these malpractices prevailing in our society. Even after 60 years of independence how long we need to keep on hiding our weaknesses. If beggary exists, who is responsible for it? How long do we keep on hiding the beggars, when some international mega events take place in our country? Why do we restrict them from begging only at those times? Why are we ashamed of showing the real India to the world?

Well, I had forgotten that I was a software engineer and my world was restricted inside the beautiful campus of an IT parks, where even a worker takes pride in his job, no matter how much they earn. I wondered why beggars do not target the IT wala’s. I was quick to realize the strict rule and regulation of the vicinity. Still I guessed, we would have contributed much more than what they would accumulate from other places in the city, provided they have a genuine reasons.  

India is an incredible country! We do have organization which cares for animals, but we rarely have any prolific organization to take care of the beggars, who are after all, human!. We have organizations which care for extinction of animals. Do we have organizations to make beggary extinct?

Beggary is a crime and the person promoting it is an accomplice!! Many religions disapprove of beggary. The Islamic law justifies this. It's unlawful in the sight of Islam due to divinely law violation. Moreover, it seizes the right of the needy and damages the image of the poor who is a good doer and maintains their dignity by refusing to beg. Muslims all over the world offer zakaat in the month of ramzaan for that very purpose. Millions of money are distributed but still we see them begging. This is where we have failed! It doesn’t make sense to help out all the needy at a time. There’s no point in displaying once generosity. We should aim to help one at a time and show them the right path to earn their living.   Such (Beggars) people should be encouraged to earn for their living. No work is small or big unless one is physically and mentally insane. The society and the government should try to come up with organization which could channelize these people and utilize them to earn a living.

Our religion and constitution encourage us for charity. We should contribute our share at places where it can be put to optimum use. Just giving off some money does not end our responsibility of charity. It is our responsibility to ensure that it goes in the right hands.

Government should come up with plans to absorb such people in an organized way, and make them feel that they are not useless creatures. They do not need reservation in administrative posts, what they need is the much needed spark of confidence, that they are capable of surviving in this world. As far as child labour and beggary is concerned, this will automatically bring to an end to it. There are already schools and organizations which offers primary education and meals to the needy students. All we need to do is to ensure that these organizations are run properly.

I want to see a better India. I wish next time, some mega events like CWG games do not compel us to hide beggars from the world which in no way remains hidden, and results for our shame. It is not for the beggars but it is for our sake. We need to treat India as a family rather than a piece of land divided by boundaries.

Celebration time!!!

Never before I had seen Indian celebrating, the way I have seen today. India is celebrating independence, Holy, Diwali, Christmas and Eid all at the same time.

This in itself gives the clear picture how hungry the Indians were to celebrate something from the core of their heart. For the first time I can see Indian flags waving all around in the victory for the interest of the nation.  Children youths and old all have joined hands to celebrate the beginning of a new era in India.

The memories of independence seem to be revived with this effort of Anna and I swear it will no longer be Gandhi alone in the books of history which the coming generations are going to read.

The effort and dedication of a single person has brought happiness on the face of millions who were suffering in some or the other way. Although it is not the end of all the suffering but surely there is a ray of hope to bring the smile on to the face of Indians.

Anna is the real hero and his heroic act is mesmerizing the entire nation. India is no longer a country obsessed with people who can only celebrate the victory of cricket matches. India is at its best tonight and I wonder there would be anybody who would not be happy.

Its time we take up the responsibility to fight for our own rights. People like Gandhi and Anna are born once in a decade. We need to assure that we can fight under the guidance of such a man of power and faith. It’s time we should come up with the slogan Anna hum sangharsh karenge, tum humare sath raho.

Anna has given the needed spark and it’s the responsibility of the people to bring to an end, this war against corruption. At the same time we should be thankful to the government for taking timely action and showing concern for the issue.  

Hope this fight for anti corruption continues until India is free from the shackles of corruption.

Jiyo india and jiyo Indians!!! Cheers!!

Happy independence day!!!

Sixty four years of independence!!!  First of all I would like to wish one and all a very happy independence day. I won’t say it was a difficult feat to achieve this 64^th independence , but its praise worthy the way we have come along a long distance from what we used to be 64 years ago. From being a dependent country to transform into an independent one in all walks of life- whether it be science and technology, Arts and culture, finance and marketing and off course there remains few more rhombic development like corruption and bribery, nepotism and cronyism  etc. which had been the headlines for decades; in itself gives the clear picture of today.

Well it does really feel great to be a part of independent INDIA. I enjoy all that could be possible in a democratic independent country. I am proud to live a peaceful life!! But alas!! Are the 1.2 billion people of India are as peaceful and complacent as me. The answer is no and that’s the reason it brings me down into the category of the anxious people who are struggling to gain their true independence. Independence here am talking about is more in sense of growth and development rather than getting free from the shackle of the being dependent on external power.

Things have changed from telegram to email and phone to mobile, but one thing remained as it is for all these year. Yes its corruption! In my lifetime so far I would have met thousands of people who had talked about corruption. All of them opposed it, but then, who the hell is corrupt???The Lokpal bill is one such instance of frustration of the masses which is the outcome of corruption. We ought to end it.

Well there are people who are trying their level best to bring about revolution to improve the condition of the country. But from the common people’s point of view, what is our role? Does anyone have taken the pain in promoting the general awareness for the role of common people toward the society for a better tomorrow?? A majority of the people would come back with the suggestion of volunteering any such activities like the Lokpal Bill and alike. That’s not bad, but we need to focus more on our basics than anything else. We are the one who can bring about a great difference in today’s India.

Well we learned in our nursery – charity begins at home!

It’s time we should learn and teach our coming generation the new proverb

“Corruption begins at home”

Hard to believe but it is true. Corruption is a disease which cannot be treated overnight. In fact it’s not possible to cure people who are suffering from it. We can try and prolong their life through revolutions but then, the India which we demand has no place for such compromise. We need to end the root cause of corruption.

We should practice honesty as we do practice yoga in our life. We should start from small things like avoiding cheating in examination and discouraging children from getting involved in unfair means to clear their papers.  We should oppose against dowry and as a male it should be an issue of prestige not to accept dowry. We should learn not to take away somebody’s lost money or belongings and use them for personal purpose; rather we should learn to donate such belongings to some charity or anyone needy- like a pauper. In short I want the people to learn about two of the most prolific terms of islam “haraam”(Forbidden) and “halaal” (Permissible).  The moment one is aware of haraam and halaal, I bet corruption will fall as never before.

We need to know how haraam has an adverse effect on oneself as well as on our society. How it is important to make us feel proud and confident and peaceful if we consume halaal things in our life.

Once we understand the basic difference between them it will bring about a revolution on its own and convert India into a prosperous and peaceful country. Let’s take an oath on this eve of Independence Day to practice honesty with body mind and soul. Wish for the better India. Amen!!

Do we really need management???

Life has changed a lot in this era. Things which were natural and spontaneous are made part of the syllabus and are dreamt to be learnt. The modern age claims to conquer each and every natural art and instinct. It claims them to be an art to be learnt blindly. There are degrees and courses which promise to produce the best of human skill and ability. And no wonder we are lured by the future these courses and degrees promises.

But there is an age old adage “you cannot send a duck to an eagle’s school”. This is self explanatory which no management school teaches. Management schools focus on the comments of big business gurus who always look for smart and talented employee who can work just for the sake of their personal benefit.

Today everything is treated like a mathematical equation.

 Need an employee for a software company? The formula is matriculation 60%, higher secondary 60% and a degree in engineering in any stream with an aggregate of 60%.

This formula designed by our management guru is considered to be the landmark for number of organization. Since it is formulated by our so called management gurus, no organization or institute dare to disobey it.

Similar is the case with the promotional criteria which a hell lot of companies and organization follows.

Although they claim to be a motivational factor to encourage and produce the best of their employee, the side effects I wonder are much more fatal in such cases. It is more like an Indian election where candidates try to grab as much votes as possible and win. It’s a situation where satisfaction among the masses is missing.

I remember how the efficiency of employees went down after an appraisal in an organization. Satisfaction was missing. Each one was promoted but there was pain of somebody else achieving greater feats with same efforts as the other guys. Sometime we are not ready to accept such injustice towards us, as we are equally good and efficient. But based on nepotism (which people generally assume) some people tend to win over the other. Things become similar to a battle field where each one of us tries to fight and win at any cost. Winning here is not in the broader sense of achieving something, but just to pull out the competitor, which is not a healthy sign at all.

There need to be a change in the system to cope with such situation and it’s not important that it should come from a tried and tested management school or a management guru. We should learn to learn from our vicinity. A better option could be that there should be an open house to discuss the contribution of an individual for his organization, where each one would get a fairer chance to display their contribution and subsequently judged by the higher authority and the fellow employee. Accordingly they should be rewarded and honored, which could be helpful in bringing down the covetousness among the other employee.

Our Indian culture is not dynamic and challenging as it should be, and that is one of the biggest reasons why we are not as developed as other countries. The loopholes lie in the system, and not in the ability and talent of its citizen. Indian can do wonders provided they follow the basics and at times avoid taking decision based on such ridiculous mathematical formulas.

It’s high time we need to realize that there can be no course to teach the natural art. Courses cannot teach one how to love. A course cannot teach a mother the art of motherhood and a father the art of fatherhood.  All it need is to be dedicated and devotional toward things we do. Similarly management needs to be learnt by observation rather than through courses which looks ridiculous at times.

Love or Lust

Life has changed drastically in the last one year.  Chennai has contributed much to my experience- A city which I always hated for wrong reasons. Food, language, accommodation, weather, and the list go on. Well all these can be compromised with, at some point of time but the biggest problem of this very city is frustration!!

Well to cope with such frustration human has been discovering different options. That’s what make human different from animal. An animal behaves in a set pattern and that is what makes them vulnerable to attack, and that’s the reason enough to be unlike them.  We are living in a modern world. So does it mean we are clever and mature enough to coin new ethics? Yes but that needs to be approved and accepted by the society.

In this age of openness and high thinking, getting into a relationship has become the best option for the age group of 16-25, in order to enjoy their life. Well never mind people getting into a relationship, but what about breaking of some relationship on grounds of, or, in the lust of something better or attractive. This is something which is giving me sleepless nights. In a relationship after a while we tend to take our loved ones for granted and get attracted to people who are unknown entities with undiscovered traits which prove to be exciting for us for a moment.

Where are the cultures, ethics and etiquette gone which we had learnt in our childhood. Or is it the fault of our parents who had deprived us from the right education about life. Being a guru in science or mathematics or any other subject doesn’t make anyone of us educated. The actual education is to learn the way to lead a life with dignity and self respect.

Life doesn’t end at twenty five!!! The actual life starts thereafter. All through my engineering days I could rarely find a guy or gal single. The moment someone breaks out of a relationship he or she can find his next love waiting. What a mutual understanding..!! Four years of relationship cannot be worthless. There are love and romance, and above all emotional involvement which are reason enough to respect it.

At the time we were parting from the college one can see tears in the eyes of the love birds. They looked real and who knows they might be real. But life in a different city demands new and adventurous relationship for a particular class of people.

Relationship among this age group, in today’s sense is just a lust. Do we ever try to break up with our parents? Yes there are cases but negligible. And if enquired those are also due to our wrong culture and ethics or at times it is also inspired from the wrong way of getting into a relationship. Can any one of us imagine to be born from a womb of a person who had been in relationship with more than one person over a span of time?

Well apart from being a divorcee or, being a widow at some point of time or for any other legal reasons which the society accepts it is NO, a big NO!!!  I know I can find a unanimous NO!!! But for the people who would love to be one of them, but they were not fortunate enough to have this privilege; I would say it’s never too late. Go ahead and get into a relationship with a guy or a gal who possess such quality. Although you cannot be one to have that privilege but your offspring will definitely have. You are the one who can lead the slut march in India which Canada is witnessing at present. You are the living example of an uncultured citizen of a country which was once known for its rich culture and exemplary ethics.

Well reality is too hard to face at times. This blog is inspired from my personal experience and it has nothing to do with any person in particular. The only intention is to survey what the people thinks, which could be useful in molding my personal thinking and ethics.

Sometime ago one of my friend had to break up with his girlfriend. They were known to be one of the best couple in the college who were at times called as spouse. I had multiple conversations with both of them but of no use. The girl had made her mind to break up. All of a sudden the guy started to look ugly to her, the reason being she found a new boyfriend. So the breakup was inevitable. Long distance murdered yet another relationship.

I was almost mad and found it really tough to digest. I discussed this with many of my female friend including my best female friend. The reason I found out was still not enough for me to understand. She tried to make me aware of the female psychology. According to her, girls need support! Existence in an unknown city far from acquaintance makes life difficult and vulnerable for the fairer sex. Females had to face innumerable challenges. Life is like a battle for them, and at times its better to submit oneself to a single guy for some period of time, who will definitely get his share but at the same time will prove himself to be a savior as well. It is better to suffer at the hand of one guy than to face this male dominated society.

Alas!! I was shocked for a moment. Is it ethically right to do so? Is it permissible? Has the world become such a bad place to live in? Do you accept this? HaHHHThe answer was quite expected, and off course unsatisfactory…That is how life goes on!!Just move on. Grow up Nawed!!! These are quite normal and nothing matters at all.

Unsatisfied I had no other option, but to move on..And it is not a long time after that incident when I could see the replay of the same incident by the hand of my so called BEST FRIEND who had sometime made me aware of general female psychology.  Her words still reverberate in my ears. Was it right???Or you need to make me aware of some other female psychology this time? (The girl in question has been in relation since a long time with the consent of their families and was planning to get married soon)

I am tired of convincing her not to fall in such ditch over and over again. But the love, rather than I would like to call it as her “lust” (because it is not her first or second love), is so vigorous that she is totally blind. I wonder the strength God gives in such situation. She is all prepared to put any relationship at stake. All values of life and friendship are put aside. All that she need is ---…never know!!!

It is really painful and hard to face realty. It is difficult to hear people addressing one of your best friends by nouns and adjectives appropriate for their behavior. And over all I am afraid of using those nouns and adjective for the person whom I really adored sometime.

Whatever it be I would say there is a loss of shame and dignity among the younger generation. I do not deny people falling in love but what we are experiencing in our vicinity is totally unethical. It is something which, not only I had experienced but it’s a story of each and every one of us. Lucky are the people who do not have a direct impact, but off course somewhere, some part of our life we experience such incidents in our friend circle. I would have rather noticed and experienced it and would have taken precautionary measures to avoid such circumstances in future, but I would like to know the views of the people of my generation regarding such behavior. What according to you guys, are right and wrong. Weather these are my conservative thinking which made me to make a mountain out of molehill.

Friends it’s high time, all we need is to come forward and raise our voice against any unethical activities. Life is short, but that doesn’t mean it should be just like anything. We are grown up and are ready to take the responsibility of the nation. We are the one who will be exemplary figures for the generation to come and be a motivation for the youths. We need to pass on the right message for the generations to come in order to be at peace at our death bed!!!