Best friends?? True Friends?? Or just Friends??

Friendship is in the air and all the social networking sites are flooded with friendship quotes and wishes. As I logged into my Facebook account today, I was delighted to see umpteen number of friendship quotes. I was happy and browsed for some good friendship quotes on websites for my wall. But, Alas!! As I browsed through, I could not find one which could suit my choice. Most of the friendship quotes were for best friend or friends with favor or friends with benefit or at all, for true friends. For a moment, I wondered why we discriminate between friends adding adjectives before the word 'friend'.

Friendship is just like any other relationship, which enables us to socialize ourselves. We all need friends. Moreover we search for this relationship in all other relations!! We look for a friend in our Parents, in our spouses, in our colleagues, in our off springs, in our employees and where not. But what make this friendship different is that we still try to find hidden friends in our so called 'friends'.

As I write this blog, it makes me thoughtful over all friends whom I had lost in the course of several years. I am deeply lost in the thoughts of people with whom I had some of my best times and still we cross each others as strangers. With all the philosophical and worldly knowledge of life we sometime fail in relationship for whatever reasons it is. And this would be the cause that gives birth to quotation of one 'best friend' over many.

As we grow up, we leave behind us lot of people (friends) for different reasons. That reason could be long distance, ego, ethics, compatibility, expectations and many more undefined behavioral aspects. Most of the relationships go through a rough patch at some point of their life cycle, which is the deciding point. Any relationship can be compared to a swinging Pendulum. It has a positive high and a negative low. Any relationship starts with the neutral and proceeds ahead towards the positive high and then swings back towards the neutral and the negative. It is the period between the positive high and neutral which is crucial in maintaining any relationship. The moment we dare to change the course of a swinging pendulum towards the positive side from negative, our relationship succeeds for the life time.

Though it may not be possible all the times, again for the same known reasons, but the realization of these factors may be quite helpful in reducing the failure rate of any relationship in future. Life is an experience, and these experiences are to be cherished and utilized in life for better relationship.

I believe that friendship should remain as an untarnished relationship and should be as natural and true as it could be and let “friend” be its superlative form. There is nothing called a true friend and a best friend. It is just friend!! Being a friend should be unconditional and there should not be a search for the hidden friend within friends. The moment one starts looking for a hidden friend it simply implies that it’s not friendship at all. It is always better not to befriend and let other relationship take precedence over friendship which may or may not have a hidden friend in them. This will ensure a psychological advantage of believing in friendship and friends!!